Podcast Transcript
Welcome to Daology with your host Paul C. Wang. Thanks for being here to receive this download on the Dao of Healing.
To start I want to mention an upcoming Daology course called Emotional Alchemy during which I focus on how to gain understanding of and skill with the energy of our emotions, which are crucial for wellbeing. Please stay until the end for additional details on that.
So in this episode I want to give you a four-step map of healing. No schema is ever complete and everyone has a unique process. And yet there are principles that apply generally. I organized them for you using the acronym H.E.A.L. Besides an explanation, each also outlines an exercise.
Before offering you this H.E.A.L. framework let’s introduce some context.
Firstly, healing is not just for those who know they are sick with a diagnosis of some sort. The reason is because health is not merely absence of illness and its symptoms but presence of wellness of its signs. Moreover, wellness includes addressing mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, natural plus social, financial, economic, political, ecological dimensions.
Secondly, healing usually involves many layers we are not aware of. Thus, we can seemingly appear healthy but not sense aspects that are already awry. These unconscious factors in fact always affect us and profoundly so until they are realized and released.
Thirdly, healing is not easy nor linear to say the least. It can be a dizzying maze of fear, frustration, failure. It may bring up loneliness, desperation, even suicidality. However, there are moments of surprising beauty, grace, awe too. These arrive less as earthshaking epiphanies than as small wins, short glimpses, sacred whispers which slowly accumulate towards wholeness.
This is a good segue to present the H.E.A.L. model because the letter H stands for Hope.
H.e.a.l.
Hope
This is about seeing as healing.
Blind hope is criticized as wishful thinking. But sometimes imagination and faith are all we have and where we begin. Can we envision a different self and situation? Dare we believe in change or can we only conceive the status quo? Develop a growth oriented mindset. Connect to a greater purpose, power, possibility. Germinate the seeds of opportunities to rebirth yourself.
Practice: Look for examples of overcoming hardship. What films or books depict stories of redemption? Find heartful inspiration wherever and whenever you can as oases of light during those dark nights of the soul.
h.E.a.l.
Edit
This is about feeling as healing.
Acknowledge that our history led us here. And it will inevitably perpetuate if we choose to retell the same old story. Reality shifts when our identity does. Otherwise our past trauma automatically becomes further future drama. If these loops of karmic causality are not broken now then we can never heal. Furthermore, the knot we must most untie often lies below the surface and in the shadows. No multitude of angelic forces can save us if we deny confronting and negotiating our own inner demons.
Practice: Review exactly what happened. Analyze where are you stuck and why. Study your intense recurrent emotional reactions. They expose our strongest triggers rooted in our deepest wounds. Examine and rewire these patterns.
h.e.A.l.
Act
This is about doing as healing.
Proactively seek knowledge, support, counsel. Reduce playing futile games of blame and shame, excusing and escaping. Instead get curious and creative, even courageous and outrageous. Deliberately educate yourself on how to decisively engage change. Minute conscious actions moment to moment gradually compound into transformation.
Practice: Express your specific needs and directly ask someone for help (best from a real human and not Google or ChatGPT). Take what you’re shown and make it your own. Test and repeat and retest then reinvest results. There is a momentum within the wave of every breath to correct course.
h.e.a.L.
Let
This is about being as healing.
Relinquish assumptions of what was, is, and will be. Suspend fear-driven hyper-vigilance and make room for magic. When you have exhausted all options then pause and lay fallow. Get quiet and listen to silence. Surrender everything, even hope for what was so that what may be can appear. Allow synchronicities and serendipities that you cannot fathom to manifest from the uncertain and unknown. True independence is dependence on more than oneself. Grant space for grace. Acceptance, humility, patience, receptivity are practical virtues to embody.
Practice: Admit your limit. What is beyond my control to change? Remember instances when micromanaged plans collapsed and all actually worked out for the best. Meditate on these divine gifts to train trust in the mystery and miracle of life. This is an antidote to catastrophizing.
Ok I hope you found H.E.A.L (Hope/Edit/Act/Let) to be a useful mnemonic tool. In closing, I will frame a few final observations.
No human can be fully healthy alone. We ache to see and be seen, hear and be heard, touch and be touched by others, even the apparently invisible, inaudible, intangible. Isolation, solitude, cocooning are temporary medicines. Eventually we must emerge to merge with ecosystemic community.
That being said, any entity, such as gurus, guides, goddesses, can help suggest strategies, expand perspectives, bear witness. Their fire can reignite our dimming confidence and burn our blinding cynicism. However no matter how potent, they cannot substitute the mandatory daily ongoing work of healing for us. The web can hold us but we must weave it.
Ultimately, healing happens when our fractured facets — especially those we experience as painful, messy, bad — identify with and as the totality. Universal and personal partner into an undivided individual. Each one becomes a fractal reflection of the One. This internal integration then refracts outwards to bless the world.
Finally, relating organically to emotions is an indispensable aspect of healing. To learn more and dive deeper, join our 2023 Fall Daology course on Emotional Alchemy. We explore how to transmute energy, transform emotion, transcend ego from the view and through the tools of Chinese medicine, philosophy, alchemy. It runs four consecutive Mondays 5:30-7:00 pm PST starting August 1. If you cannot attend live recordings will be available.
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